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Challenge of the Month: Tinder

Me: “Mummy, I’m now on Tinder.”

Abs (My mother): “What’s Tinder?”

Me: “It’s a dating app.”

Abs (My mother): ” … Why? Is it for Christians?”

Two very good questions from Abs tbh.

Anyone who follows this blog will know that I like to do something new every month to get out of my comfort zone, but when my housemate first suggested Tinder, I was like HECK to the NO.

You see, as a self proclaimed prude and “ice queen” and Christian, Tinder is something I have never considered. It has a not so great reputation as a sleazy hook up app, and that was what I thought it was for. My housemate was quick to let me know that I was being a bit judgemental, having not experienced it for myself, so I was challenged to try it out.

The goal? To go on a Tinder date and prove that there are nice people on it. So with this in mind, I downloaded the app. Forever #reppingGod, I put my favourite Bible verse in my bio, to let peeps know what I’m about innit:

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And then I started swiping, which led me to some… interesting people:

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My first match was with a guy who was a twin as well, and I was so hyped because OMG what are the odds, right? But then he sent me this:

screenshot_20170106-152255    …. So that was the end of that.

In total I matched with about 25 people, which was 25 more than I thought I would match with tbh – one of them used to be the title character in Billy Elliot on the West End, so claim to fame?

And now, on to the Tinder date.

It was with a recent graduate, who was also into films, and worked in healthcare. He suggested going for a drink, and I was quick to let him know that I wasn’t interested in a relationship or anything like that.

(You see, in naive Tai Land, “not interested in a relationship or anything like that” means I just want to be friends, but apparently that not what it means on Tinder. But I digress…)

We met in a pub, and it was… interesting; he came dressed in a suit. A SUIT.

I felt so under dressed in my dungarees (LOL), and it was just very awkward. There were only about 5 people in the whole pub (us included), so it was even more awks. He wasn’t much of a talker – a lot of our conversation was led by me, as he just stared whenever I stopped talking. It was very odd, and a bit unnerving.

Don’t get me wrong, I thought he was nice, but when he abruptly left the pub without saying goodbye, because I didn’t feel comfortable with giving him my number, I knew I had made the right choice. Some people have tried to argue that I was harsh for not giving it to him, as he had “been so nice,” but I was quick to assert that I completely have the right to not give him my number.

I had made it clear to him that us going for drinks was 100% platonic, and I also had no intention of seeing him again, so this “nice guy” entitlement culture is a load of bull. Shout out to the waitress in the pub for agreeing with me; women should not feel pressured to do anything they don’t want to. No. No. NO.

On a lighter note though, Mahan and Shak are the best for coming to the pub to make sure I’d be okay. They pretended not to know me ofcourse, but knowing they were close by was reassuring. I am so blessed to have friends who would come on a date with me, so that’s a positive thing to take away from all this.

Anyway, final thoughts on Tinder:

  • I was wrong for thinking that it’s just for getting with people; friendships can be formed on it too!
  • Personally, it’s not for me though. I didn’t like how it’s mainly based on judging people by how they look, and I felt bad for being so quick to dismiss people because of their chosen profile pictures.
  • So I think I’d prefer to meet people face to face than online; people can be completely different people over social media, and I learned that quickly with my Tinder date… #neveragain.
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New Year, Better Me?

HELLO, and happy new year!

I am back in uni land for the new semester, and I am absolutely BUZZING, because there are so many great things to look forward to. Halfway ball, the annual charity fashion show, visits from friends, and open mic nights put on by the new Healthcare Arts and Performance Society that I’m part of, are just a few of the things coming up this semester. It’s going to be a busy one, but I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t keep busy amirite?

Ofcourse, I’m still here to get my degree, so I’m also looking forward to learning about the Gastrointestinal System. We’ve been told that it’s not as intense as ENT, Ophthalmology and Neuro, so hopefully that’ll give me more time to keep on top of things. I want to be better at keeping up with my notes this semester, and if that means learning to say ‘No’ more, then so be it. While it’s good to not just be about medicine all the time, I mustn’t forget that this degree should be higher up on the list of my priorities.

I also want to be better at my challenges of the month. I’ve been slacking lately, and I feel bad because I used to do something new every month, but now I’m not going out of my comfort zone as much as I used to. So due to this, I’ve decided that this month’s challenge of the month will be Tinder. That’s right, you read right – The Ice Queen is going to go on a Tinder date at some point this month. Stay tuned for updates.

Another thing I want to better at is cooking Nigerian food while I’m at uni. I’ve enjoyed teaching my housemates more about Nigerian culture, so I want to carry on with it this year. Armed with a list (and pictures) of spices and ingredients from Abs (my mother), I plan to go to the African food shop and buy a ton of stuff to cook with. Exciting times ahead!

Finally, I want to be better at reading in my free time. I don’t read much during term time, (probably because I don’t have much free time), but after getting through Purple Hibiscus and A Monster Calls in a couple of hours during the Christmas break, I realised how much I miss it. So every night, I’m going to try and read before bed. Book suggestions are very welcome 🙂

And those are some of “resolutions” for the new year! Will I manage to accomplish them? I guess time will tell…

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Challenge of the Month: Passing Year 2

I’ll admit that I haven’t done anything new for the past couple of months, and this was more of a challenge of the year to be honest, so yes, this is a bit of a cop-out, but trust me, getting through this year has definitely been tough.

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, this year has involved friendship drama, taking on more responsibility, and ofcourse, dealing with having to find somewhere to stay during exams.

So when I received confirmation that I passed everything and can move on to third year, I cried. But these were tears of joy!

All of this could not have been possible without the grace of God, and for that, I’m so so grateful.

It’s weird to think that this was three years ago, and now I’m halfway through my degree, how time flies!Results Day 2013
This also means that it’s been three years since I started this blog, and over 5000 views and 100+ followers later, I’m still going!

I just want to say a massive thanks to everyone who takes time to read my rambling- I don’t post this blog anywhere, or talk about it much, so every one of those views and follows is from people who came across and chose to read it on their own accord.

You guys are the real MVPs x

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Challenge of the Month: Med’s Got Talent

There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of how blessed I am to be at university studying medicine. It’s all possible through the grace of God, so what better way to show how grateful I am than a public proclamation of my faith?

Every year, as part of MedSoc Raising and Giving (MRAG) week, there is a talent show. I came across this performance by CeCe Winans a couple of weeks ago, and it reignited my love for this song, so I decided to sing it in the talent show. I sing a lot- started when I was about 5, began classical training in year 9, and got to Grade 8 at the end of sixth form. I’m also part of the church band and sing most Sundays; singing just makes me really happy.

This was a challenge for me because not many people know I sing. Only my close friends, people who live with me (I annoy my housemates with my incessant singing, sorry guys), and those that go to my church know, because I don’t really talk about it. It was also a challenge because it was my second time singing in public on my own. Growing up, The Keen One a.k.a Kenny, and I always sang together, so I felt very nervous doing this by myself.

How did it go then?

I won!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

I didn’t expect it at all- I was the first to perform, and was gently told that it was unlikely that I would win, as early acts are easier to forget. I didn’t enter to win anyway; my aim was to give a shout out to my main man Jesus, so I was really shocked and overwhelmed by the responses from the judges. I’m still buzzing, SO HAPPY!

I couldn’t have done it without my gym buddy/accompanist/vocal coach, who I will refer to as York Girl. She really went out of her way to play for me- transposing music, booking rehearsal rooms, and giving me tips on producing a better sound (she was tough and quick to point out when I went flat, which I did… a lot). I’m so grateful to her, and I really appreciate her help.

Med's Got Talent

So yeah, the main take away message from all this? I have a blessed assurance in God 🙂

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Challenge of the Month: Eating Out Alone

What do you do when you reaaaaallly want to go to Waffle House but none of your friends are up for it? You go anyway!

Waffle House

For some reason, eating out alone is this thing that just isn’t done, which makes no sense to me; people eat alone when they’re in their houses anyway, so doing the same in restaurants shouldn’t be any different. It’s not something I’ve ever done though, so I saw no one wanting to Waffle House with me as an opportunity to have some quality Taiwo time.

So what new things have I learnt from this experience?

1. Waiters assume you’re with someone until you correct them.

Table for two?
“No, just one please.”
Oh okay! So sorry!” *Cue frantic rush by waiter to get me a menu*

I got to choose where to sit though, so it was a win tbh.

2. Waiters tend to hover around more when you’re on your own. I got asked quite a few times if I was alright or if I needed anything. Pretty sure they were talking about me too, as I noticed they kept looking in my direction.

3. It wasn’t just the waiters giving me pitying looks- the other customers kept looking at me too. It was mostly older couples there, so I noticed them smiling in my direction a lot. I smiled back, ofcourse; it’s always good to be friendly.

4. It really isn’t a big deal! I quite enjoyed my meal, and I’m definitely going to eat out on my own more. I’m always getting teased for reading on my phone (articles, Ebooks etc) when I’m out with people, so being able to do so without coming across rude was really great.

For anyone who is considering trying it out and feels self-conscious, just remember that anyone who is focusing on you and why you’re eating alone, is clearly not having a good time with whoever they’re with. It’s no problem or business of theirs to be honest.

I asked the waiter to take a picture of me, and he was quite taken aback. Here’s to being a single, independent woman who doesn’t need other people to have a good time 😉

Waffles

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Joining the Bone Marrow Register (An Update)

So my saliva kit came, and here I am holding it:
Saliva Kit

Providing a sample was quite easy- all I had to do was go half an hour without eating or drinking (gum included), and then spit in a tube. Simple!

I then sealed the tube and shook it 5 times so the purple fluid inside it would mix well with my spit. (The purple fluid helps keep the sample at room temperature). If you were curious, here’s what a tube of my saliva looks like:

Saliva Sample (lol)
Hmmm, yummy…

Anthony Nolan even provided an envelope for me to post the sample for free, so it was quite easy to send back too.

And now I have a six to eight week wait to get confirmation that I’m officially on the bone marrow register, exciting times!

(P.S- Despite there being a 1 in 25 million chance of it happening, Lara found a match! This would not have been possible without increased awareness causing more people to sign up to be donors. So if you haven’t signed up yet, what are you waiting for?)

https://www.anthonynolan.org/apply-join-bone-marrow-register

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Challenge of the Month: Paintballing

It actually wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

I was told getting hit would be really painful, and some people even said it would probably make me cry (really, guys, really?), but it was quite okay!

We played 6 games, and I was really nervous before the first one because the opposing team looked like pros- some even brought their own gear, so we could tell these were people who knew their stuff. I got into it more after the first few games; I managed to only get shot three times, so that was quite an accomplishment. I even rolled military style during one game and ended up getting quite muddy but #noregrets.

I did get shot in the same spot on my hand twice, and that still stings a bit now, because it was cold when we went- getting hit when your hands are stiff is not fun at all.

Would I go again? YES. And next time I’ll go with a larger group of my friends, because I reckon it’ll be even better with more of us 🙂Paintballing